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  Posted by margo44 (U8427522) on Wednesday, 2nd December 2009

  middle son is divorced but I have always stayed friends with dil as she was the innocent party and needed my support with the children.As the children have grown up my grandaughter and her father do not get on.This year instead of going out for christmas lunch I decided to have a family meal at home and at that time dil said she thought it would be awkward with the situation as it is and perhaps they shouldn't come.meanwhile eldest son and family said they would be there.Granduaghter and one of my other grandchildren talk online and to cut a long story short dil asked if she could change her mind as gd was upset that she wouldn't be there I of course said yes now middle son has thrown his toys out of his pram and says he's not going to come now,and to make matters worse its my birthday tomorrow and he's treating me to a slap up meal with my other children and their partners what a way to start the run up to christmas

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  Posted by Silver Jenny (U12795676) on Thursday, 3rd December 2009

  Margo44, enjoy your birthday tomorrow and have a happy time with your family. Childish tantrums, even from a grown-up, pass. I hope your DiL and the cousins have a fabulous time at Christmas.
  
  

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  Posted by yorkshire puddin (U4522617) on Thursday, 3rd December 2009

  margo,
  
  I think you have done exactly the right thing and whether or not your son decides to come is not your worry.
  Dil and grandchild were willing to be there, I understand, knowing he would be and facing up to it.
  
  I think you maybe should make light of it if you can and not dwell, tell him you understand, it's his choice but you will miss him.
  I hope you have a lovely day today.
  Happy Birthday.
  
  (I hope that helps.)
  

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  Posted by margo44 (U8427522) on Thursday, 3rd December 2009

  
  thanks for your messages middle son seemed ok with me this morning when he rang but then I had a call from elder son to say ms had rung him upset saying he's not coming christmas day.I have told elder son not to worry and to let things settle down.just to say that compered to what locki for example is going through this is very trivial
  margo

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  Posted by rainbowLaure (U8486235) on Thursday, 3rd December 2009

  had a call from elder son to say ms had rung him upset saying he's not coming christmas day 
  
  margo, sounds like ms is having a tantrum and using emotional blackmail to gain support from family members. Time he grew up and put his family first at Christmas.
  
  I know this is as nothing compared to locki's problems, but even small things become magnified at this time of the year.
  
  Have a wonderful birthday and a fabulous Christmas.

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