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Posted by Mum's favourite child is Jennifer (U11299800) on Monday, 5th April 2010
My great manager was unjustifiably suspended for 6 months. A colleague saw this as her Big Opportunity causing great resentment and hostility amongst the rest of us. Manager has thankfully been undangled and has returned to work.
Bitter feelings about aforementioned colleague's machinations have now just about erupted. Manager is all for everyone 'moving on' for the good of the team. Work is becoming an untenable place to be. Thoughts anyone? Not along the lines of FGS why don't you all grow up please though - gone way past that and if only it was that easy.
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Posted by Westsussexbird or Birdy aka Westie (U6316532) on Monday, 5th April 2010
Just giving this a bump .... it sounds a very difficult situation.
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Posted by Miladou bloody but unbowed (U3518248) on Monday, 5th April 2010
What a dreadful situation, Mum's etc. Unfortunately, your manager is right and "water under the bridge" is the only solution. I had to endure a similar situation myself, with the added complication that the opportunistic colleague had previously been a close friend of mine. I coped by keeping communication to the minimum and wangled my way into a different office as soon as I was able.
I wouldn't dream of telling you all to "grow up". If your manager is as good as you say, she should be able to resolve the situation, given time.
for me it is not so much office politics as tribal office politics. Really awful to be the target from which it is very hard to recover. Bite the bullet / draw a line under it and move on/ make a new start .... it can scar a person permanently with haunting flashbacks.
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Posted by Mum's favourite child is Jennifer (U11299800) on Monday, 5th April 2010
I coped by keeping communication to the minimum Â
That's pretty much how I've been coping. However said colleague wants to return to the halcyon days prior to mgr's bounce, when we all got on like a house on fire. And is complaining bitterly that it seems it's not going to happen any time soon.
I coped by keeping communication to the minimum Â
Me too. Infact almost zero communication. Only way to cope. You can't go back to 'the good old days' either. They have been eclipsed.
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Posted by Mum's favourite child is Jennifer (U11299800) on Monday, 5th April 2010
You can't go back to 'the good old days' either. They have been eclipsed. Â
Unfortunately there have been teary phone call appeals to mgr at home to persuade us all to stop being horrible to her. Which nobody has been. Mgr just wants us all to get on.
Honestly, talk about back to the playground! I do find the whole thing embarrassing but what to do.
You say the manager is good. Can you suggest to him/her that a short talk or email is called for, reminding you all why you are there?
Presumably the unit supplies some service or goods to someone, and if the performance is poor, your jobs will all be in danger.
Unless you hang together you will hang separately....
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Posted by Miladou bloody but unbowed (U3518248) on Monday, 5th April 2010
Mon, 05 Apr 2010 09:46 GMT, in reply to Mum's favourite child is Jennifer in message 5
"said colleague wants to return to the halcyon days prior to mgr's bounce"
That's her problem. You go into work, you do your job and you communicate pleasantly with her, but only to the required extent. In my case, it often felt as though I was being two-faced, but that's illogical. I turned down lunch invitations on the grounds that I was on a diet/had brought a packed lunch, and refused social invitations due to prior engagements.
One thing that helped is that three three other colleagues were also affected but once we'd discussed the situation, we now don't refer to it at all. It may be the elephant in the room, but we've become adept at tiptoeing round it.
As for the teary phone calls, that's the manager's problem and I sincerely hope it isn't the manager who's told you about them.
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Posted by Westsussexbird or Birdy aka Westie (U6316532) on Monday, 5th April 2010
I've been wondering where Personnel (or Human Resources or whatever they are called nowadays) are in all this?
Whoever took the decision to suspend the manager is presumably keeping an eye on the situation.
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Posted by Mum's favourite child is Jennifer (U11299800) on Monday, 5th April 2010
Thank you all. L8ers as they say
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