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Posted by politeLadyPortia (U7099336) on Tuesday, 22nd March 2011
As we are approaching nearly 2000 posts it is time to move to a new circle of light flowing from ML candles embracing the needs and celebrations which make up the rich tapestry of life.
At this time of regeneration in the natural world may we take time to stop and stare and appreciate the beauty of the world around us. John Clare, a local man who struggled throughout his life with ill health reminds us of the beauties in his writings. Often we are so busy we we forget that in spite of all the hurt in the world we still have much that is beautiful around us. and much to be thankful for.
May we too be thankful for the kindness of others- from friends,family and colleagues and from the strangers we meet along our journey.
May our candles glow in giving thanks and kindness as we go through this day.
And remember:
Those who mourn this day especially all known to us both in RL and ML
Those dealing with natural disasters- especially those in New Zealand and Japan.
In thanksgiving for in the emergency services in these areas of devastation- for their dedicated and ongoing work
For all serving in current conflicts especially those who have lost friends and colleagues
For all watching and waiting in whatever ciircumstances- for courage to cope and serenity in the realities.
For all who care for others- the professionals, the volunteers, family and friends. May we be thankful too for their dedication
For all for whom life seems very dark and unfair and harsh at this time.
For good news for those who are struggling to keep home and family together in this harsh recession.
For compassion for our fellow human beings when life rushes by and the demands seem to be non -stop
For that Treasury of Grace which enables kindnesses received and given to be passed on gracefully to others. may we learn how to be both givers and receivers......
Let this light and warmth bring comfort to all who are in need.
PLP
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Posted by politeLadyPortia (U7099336) on Tuesday, 22nd March 2011
A PS
For Baby L's continued good progress.
And for her Mum who is feeling much more herself.
As well as my friend D and her family as they face her last journey.
PLP
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Posted by Bleak_Midwinter_Squirrel_Nutcase (U2248205) on Tuesday, 22nd March 2011
My new RHS rose candle-in-a-tin (safety aspects, if you keep adventurous cats) is spreading its fragrance for all you mention, PLP, and for any others who need its light and comforting scent.
just bookmarking, with thoughts going out to all who need them.
I have had a busy and good weekend and a nice day off work yesterday. Suddenly last night I had one of those pangs when I realised how fragile we are and how easily things change. It made me a bit scared for a minute. One of the things that got me back down to earth was the thought of the candles on this thread. So thank you and I send light, comfort and above all kindness, to those who need it.
LynnieP x
My candle is lit again for Y. A Japanese student so far from home. Her family are safe and away from the tsunami area and the nuclear power plants. Some of her fellow students have lost family and friends or still awaiting news. She might not understand the idea of our candle links but she appreciates' the kndness of strangers'.
And an update on V. a friend for whom I lit a candle before Christmas when she was undergoing heart surgery. She is progressing well and even allowed to drive again, for which she is thankful. So thank-you to all who added her to their own candle thoughts.
And for Lynni , for calm when the fear comes.
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Posted by MV Whitby May Rose (U6862284) on Tuesday, 22nd March 2011
Thinking of all mentioned here and wishing everyone peace.
Continuing to light my candle for parents struggling with children, whether young or old, often feeling inadequate and helpless.
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Posted by Dresdenshepherdess (U3509991) on Tuesday, 22nd March 2011
A bad day for me. My friend D has a third return of her cancer. L is undergoing tests for something nasty and feeling very frail, and someone very dear to me is going through the mill, whilst I stand by, helpless to intervene.
I lit my candle for the first two and all in need. Please spare a light for them all. Dresdenxxx
, in reply to message 9.
Posted by CC Growing old disgracefully (U13344869) on Wednesday, 23rd March 2011
Will light a candle here when I get up in the morning. Myst b a very difficult time for you so will include you as well.
Hope that you can get some sleep
Dresden, lighting a candle for your friends. May you have strength to cope with them. Helplessness is an awful feeling, but very familiar to me.
Thinking of all those struggling with mental health problems today and praying for the capacity to view things as they really are, not as they seem. Reality, however difficult, can be dealt with; distortion causes additional problems.
, in reply to message 11.
Posted by mistresslucy (U9471573) on Wednesday, 23rd March 2011
I am lighting a candle for all who may need comfort,including my dear old Dad who is slowly slipping away from us.
Also for Marigold, R.I.P. Lucy
, in reply to message 12.
Posted by Fire-Pig - proud to wave the protest banner (U12231213) on Wednesday, 23rd March 2011
I've just seen that my grateful thanks to PLP for opening this with her wonderful words never reached the screen. My internet was like that yesterday coming and going.
Our candles wishes and prayers are not like my present internet connection, they are constantly striving to bring comfort to the afflicted.
F-P
Bringing my candles over from the old thread to light up the new thread.
Keeping all with troubles in mind, and hoping the light may brighten their situation.
For my family, I am keeping a large, bright scented candle lit for my niece, as she is still so ill.
I am going to regret posting here. Due to OCD issues I find it difficult to deal with threads on which I post. But I would like to see a metaphorical candle lit for all OCD sufferers. It is more common than many would think and, in some cases, it can be disabling and cause much mental pain and stress.
And, if said candle is still burning, a thought for the suffering people of Japan following the event that has affected me a lot (I don't know why) over recent days.
Bringing my candles over from the old thread. Dont have a real one here in Colorado but I was thinking yesterday that I might buy one when I'm in the spa later today.
For all who need them today my virtual ones are burning brightly. Scumbag I've lived with a number of people over the past 18 months who have OCD among their problems so I know how debilitating it can be, I shall add sufferers to my prayer list.
Thanks PLP for opening the thread.
An update on the Mums we have been thinking of:
The bereaved Mum has been transferred back to the bigger hospital she was at originally, to check how her shattered pelvis is healing. They are worried about infection at the site of the metal rods they have had to insert.
The Mum with breast cancer is home from her operation and is quite scared. I don't know if results from the biopsies have been given yet, but she is facing radiotherapy and possibly chemotherapy and is feeling very insecure, I believe. Her father died recently from prostate cancer, so that is adding to her difficulties, as she has a lot of memories to deal with. Thanks for your thoughts for her. Her daughter (my pupil) appears to be coping quite well in school.
, in reply to message 17.
Posted by CC Growing old disgracefully (U13344869) on Thursday, 24th March 2011
Candle li here for the two Mums and daughter of Mum plus other family and friends..
Also for those dealing with OCD issues
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Posted by Emma - no relation (U2818673) on Thursday, 24th March 2011
I'd like to light a candle for J, whose cancer is advancing and making treatment very difficult; for her OH who had to explain to their teenage and young adult children yesterday that it could go either way - their mother might now deteriorate fast; for the children, and for the skill and care of all those treating J.
And a second candle for my old friend's OH who is at last showing signs of progress after major heart surgery; for my friend and their offspring; and for the skill and care of those treating him.
And a third candle for all those who watch and wait and don't know what to hope for.
ENR
, in reply to message 19.
Posted by SussexCornflower InTheFinalCountdown (U13833966) on Thursday, 24th March 2011
I have just realised a new thread has been started - slow old me!!
Just catching up with all the posts and thinking of all mentioned.
, in reply to message 20.
Posted by Gayer-Anderson Cat (U13637930) on Thursday, 24th March 2011
Just bookmarking...but have lit a scented tealight for all who need comfort and strength for whatever reason.
G-AC
, in reply to message 21.
Posted by Karmic-ish Kris (U14642774) on Friday, 25th March 2011
Me too G-AC,
Have not been in Ml for a while but have remembered my candle buddies every time i've lit them at home, at night.
Have had a stressful day (small, small, stresses) so am winding down by relaxing in a roomful of 10 lavender candles, lit for all her who need light, and to remind myself not to stress the small stuff.
kris x
, in reply to message 20.
Posted by Westsussexbird or Birdy aka Westie (U6316532) on Friday, 25th March 2011
I have just realised a new thread has been started - slow old me!!Â
We do be a bit slow in West Sussex :0)))
, in reply to message 23.
Posted by Karmic-ish Kris (U14642774) on Friday, 25th March 2011
Hey Birdy my friend,
If I may reply to your lovely post to me (another thread) in here..
< Kris, don't leave Mustardland unless you really have to. There are plenty of lovely threads, and you don't have to fight battles that sap the life out of you. Above all, take care of yourself. >
I know absolutely that what you say is true. And was thinking on this after I read your post.
I had somehow found myself getting more and more emotionally 'bothered' by not only the contents of the threads, but my responses to them. Sigh..in RL i am known for being so calm, yet in here, sometimes..
So it made me have to re-assess myself, and my character. For 18 months or o I have had to change little bits about myself: my health, my relationships, my livelihood, my future..all have changed so irrevocably that i sometimes look in the mirror each morning and wonder who I am, or who indeed I was.
All these things have changed. Ok, so that is karma, fate..but then it began to be that I realised that my character was changing too. I was becoming intolerant, judgemental... I haven't been able to test this out in RL because i am housebound, but I knew that I had to take myself away from ML and try to remember that my whole life I have had confidence in a a benign world..and that this has been shattered, perhaps, but that my way of coping with this should not, must not, be to lose hold of the facets of my character I could always rely on. Belief, in people, in goodness, we only have one life, be at peace with it.
I know that i am lazy, selfish, a little self absorbed. These are all facets of my character, unfortunately. But being belligerent and lacking a sense of perspective and, worse, humour..I needed to find the time and space to be re- grateful for all the good things in my life.
It's an ongoing process but i'm getting there! And when i do I will be back, and posting and hopefully putting in instead of digging in...
Sorry, i know this isn't really the place for such a self-indulgent post. Except that i have been reflecting in the candle-light every evening and trying to draw on the light, with gratitude and hope. :o)))
, in reply to message 24.
Posted by Carinthia the Cracker (U14531014) on Friday, 25th March 2011
Not self- indulgent kris
Exactly the right place for it
Wishing you well Dear.
A candle for all facing another night of uncertainty
Carinthia.xx
Kris, I will always welcome your posts and have always found you to be kind and thinking of others in your posts. You hold a special place in my heart, and you've found your way there simply by being you. Make sure you let us know how you are, because we care.
, in reply to message 26.
Posted by CC Growing old disgracefully (U13344869) on Friday, 25th March 2011
Candle lit for all who need it especially Emma's friends
, in reply to message 27.
Posted by politeLadyPortia (U7099336) on Friday, 25th March 2011
A thanksgiving candle lit here for the very real beauty around us as Spring gives us the benison of so much beauty...
Walking at our Hopsice yesterday I felt peace and tranquility amonst the daffodils which shone in the glorious sunshine
And this morning here in our grounds where signs of spring are everywhere- the air scented with hyacinths and daffodils bringing the feeling of spring..
In thanksgiving for life and the signs of new life to come
PLP
A candle for my dear late mother who loved the spring.
And for Marigold's family and friends tomorrow.
LynnieP x
, in reply to message 24.
Posted by Westsussexbird or Birdy aka Westie (U6316532) on Friday, 25th March 2011
Kris, I understand what you say .... you must do what is best for you, but just bear in mind that a lot of people are wishing you well and are always on the lookout for a nupdate. :0))
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Posted by CC Growing old disgracefully (U13344869) on Saturday, 26th March 2011
Will be thinking of Marigold RIP and all her family plus many friends at Dublin Crematorium 3..00pm this afternoon.
Candle lit here. Will see if I can get a green one when I go into town this morning.
, in reply to message 31.
Posted by CC Growing old disgracefully (U13344869) on Saturday, 26th March 2011
Got a green candle and am about to light it in memory and thanksgiving for the life of Marigold.
, in reply to message 32.
Posted by Westsussexbird or Birdy aka Westie (U6316532) on Saturday, 26th March 2011
I can't find a shamrock candle
but I like this gentle flame
, in reply to message 33.
Posted by Westsussexbird or Birdy aka Westie (U6316532) on Saturday, 26th March 2011
A candle is lit here for Marigold, her family and everyone who knew and loved her.
Fluff x
, in reply to message 35.
Posted by Dresdenshepherdess (U3509991) on Saturday, 26th March 2011
A candle for the lovely lady. Marigold caught my eye early on because of her name. One of my favourites because of a book I read when I was very small. As it turned out, her posts were worth reading for their own sake.
Much love to all who need a candle tonight. Dresdenxxx
, in reply to message 24.
Posted by Now Locking for a house (U3261819) on Saturday, 26th March 2011
Oh kris you have only given positivity to this MB. Your good traits are entirely intact. You are too hard on yourself.
A candle for Marigold here. I have long pondered how one's saddest day can be the happiest one of another. I have always been intrigued by the juxtaposition. Today was a really happy one for OH and I as we became Great-grandparents ..... and then there was Marigold's funeral.....
RIP
, in reply to message 37.
Posted by Westsussexbird or Birdy aka Westie (U6316532) on Saturday, 26th March 2011
Oh Locki ... what lovely news ... and a nephew of ours has had a baby daughter today ... to go with their little son.
I hope Kris is taking note of what you say .... she is what I would affectionately call a plonker :0))
I would quickly add that I have just looked it up in the urban dictionary to check that the way I use it is ok ....
"Today the term plonker is a very light hearted insult. Its not even seen as an insult"
So ... in my world it is a lighthearted affectionate term, and I think it applies to Kris .... :0)
I hope everyone has a good night and don't forget to change the clocks.
, in reply to message 38.
Posted by Silver Jenny (U12795676) on Saturday, 26th March 2011
A candle of welcome lit for Locki's new greatgranddaughter, and all her family. Hope you had your lace cap at the ready, Locki!.
, in reply to message 38.
Posted by Now Locking for a house (U3261819) on Sunday, 27th March 2011
So nice to know there is a link between 'our' babies Birdy.
Jenny, I usually shop in' New Look' down with the yoof. If I can squeeze into any ot their clothes. Not sure they stock lace caps but would love one. I will have to look in 'vintage shops. I have lace gloves. Perhaps they will do.
Had a gentle stroll around Central Park this morning on the 1.7 mile walk part of the 2011 Colon Cancer Challenge. I chose to do it because in 2 days time it would have been my dad's birthday had he not died of the disease in 2004. I came home to find that, for reasons best known to himself (he wanted it to smell nice), Juniper has lit the vanilla scented kitchen candle. So I'm leaving it burning in here in memory of dad, and for all colon cancer patients and their families. And for everyone else in need of it's gentle light today
I'm thinking and praying for a child I teach - aged 13, just diagnosed with a huge brain tumour, due to have a a very long operation on Tuesday. And for her friends, who are very distressed.
*
Annierose, lighting a candle for your pupil. How traumatic that must be for all concerned, including those at school.
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Posted by CC Growing old disgracefully (U13344869) on Sunday, 27th March 2011
Candle lit here for your pupil and her friends and family
, in reply to message 45.
Posted by anagramladysin (U14258840) on Sunday, 27th March 2011
My candles are lit for all who need them -- and oh Locki, how wonderful that you are a babushka!!! Congratulations, and much much joy to you and to the baby's parents.
, in reply to message 46.
Posted by Now Locking for a house (U3261819) on Sunday, 27th March 2011
Thank you ana. We have lots of beautiful photos already. I keep looking at them. This little Great-Grandaughter looks just like her Mommy's youngest sister! Isn't it funny how the genes jump about?
, in reply to message 47.
Posted by Westsussexbird or Birdy aka Westie (U6316532) on Sunday, 27th March 2011
Locki .... how lovely. We are waiting for pics on the internet and are due to visit in 3 or 4 weeks time. We don't have a name yet .... it's all very exciting. This babe went full term so is 3 weeks older than her brother was when he popped out so much more of an armful, rather than just a handful!
I remember our first daughter seemed to just lie on my husband's hand whereas our second daughter was a big beefy baby. It gave me such a shock! She came out yelling whereas number one just looked around and seemed to accept the world she had just been born into.
, in reply to message 48.
Posted by Ceit katemehomeagain (U14551670) on Monday, 28th March 2011
Candle lit for all above
Just an update My YD lost her baby this morning bless her sorry stuck for words Take care Katemha
, in reply to message 49.
Posted by MV Whitby May Rose (U6862284) on Monday, 28th March 2011
Kate I am so sorry. I have been thinking about her and wishing her well and am sad for you all in your loss. I will say a prayer and hope that she recovers as well as can be hoped in mind and body.
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