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Cooking for my mother helped her share a hidden history

When Grace M. Cho鈥檚 mother developed schizophrenia, Grace found that traditional Korean cooking provided clues to her mother鈥檚 history 鈥 and helped them remain close.

Grace M. Cho grew up Korean-American in a small town in Washington state. Her mother, Koonja, was a Korean woman who met Grace鈥檚 white-American father 鈥 a merchant marine 鈥 on a US military base in the aftermath of the Korean war. Charismatic and determined, Koonja did everything she could to 'fit in' in their town: she threw a party for Grace and her brother鈥檚 teachers to help them integrate at school; she learned to cook American food; and she also founded a thriving woodland-foraging business that led to her being nicknamed 鈥渢he blackberry lady鈥 by the locals. Still, Grace never felt the family was truly accepted, and they often experienced harassment. When Grace was 15, Koonja suffered a psychological breakdown that would, years later, be diagnosed as schizophrenia. Struggling to help, Grace turned detective and uncovered her mother鈥檚 traumatic history in Korea. But it was through cooking 鈥 and recreating Korean recipes Koonja had not tasted for decades 鈥 that Grace and her mother were able to find comfort and connection. Grace's memoir is called Tastes Like War.

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Presenter: Anu Anand
Producer: Laura Thomas

Picture: Grace M. Cho
Credit: Patrick Bower

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